This is an eternal dilemma - a guy and a girl became good friends, but then, out of the blue, there was a transparent but accurate hint that one (or both of them) was expecting something more. Are you dying of curiosity and want to know if your friend likes you? If you look closely at some of the signs, behavior and ask the opinion of others, then you can draw some conclusions about his feelings. So see Step 1 below to get started.
Part 1 of 3: Visual Signs of Falling in Love
Step 1. Watch for embarrassment
In romantic films, men appear before us in strong and passionate images. However, in real life, guys are often shy, nervous, and doubtful, like everyone else! If you suspect that your friend has feelings for you, then observing his shyness and embarrassment is a good place to start revealing him. Don't you think he has become more nervous and sensitive in your company? Does his laugh sound forced or unnatural? Does he try to laugh and smile at everything that happens around you, even if there is no real reason for this? These are signs that your friend is worried about what you think of him!
- Here are a few other things to note:
- He blushes
- There is a slight awkwardness in the conversation
- Slight reluctance or hesitation when they say goodbye to you
Step 2. Look for suspicious eye contact
It is not so easy for people in love to take their eyes off the person for whom they have feelings. Do you feel like your friend is looking you in the eye a little more than normal conversation requires? Does he smile every time you turn around? The eyes, as they say, are the windows to the soul - even if your friend is too shy to admit his love, his eyes can tell everything.
That his eyes betray his feelings may be too late for your friend to realize. If you catch your friend's eyes on you when he is embarrassed or trying to turn away, then perhaps you caught him in a moment of heartbreak
Step 3. Pay attention to affectionate body language
Latent feelings can unconsciously influence behavior and body language. Does your friend's body language seem to indicate that he is giving you his full attention, even if the situation does not require it? In other words, does he focus on turning to face you when he talks to you? And maybe he straightens up and pulls himself up if he notices you? Does he pull his shoulders back or rest his hand on the wall when he speaks to you? Thus, body language can reveal his secret feelings towards you.
Step 4. Take note of the "accidental" touches
This is one of the oldest book tricks! Many guys use it to touch the girl they like, as if accidentally bumping into her. A person in love with you will be very generous in their arms, they can often "bump" into you in order to touch you once more, and so on. If your friend suddenly starts to seem a little more offended to you than usual, then you can be pretty sure that he likes you.
Sometimes a person in love can go so far as to come up with situations where he has to touch you. If your friend suddenly becomes more awkward or awkward, he often drops things in front of you, give them to him and pay attention - how delicately and carefully will he touch your hand to pick them up?
Step 5. Notice if he tries to be with you more often than usual
Boyfriends who are in love with their girlfriend will look for any reason to be with her longer. Most of the time, a guy friend who secretly adores you (knowingly or not) will try to be there whenever possible - standing next to you at social events, sitting next to you while eating, etc. However, sometimes a guy can be particularly shy. In this case, even if he is in love with his girlfriend, her presence makes him so nervous that he will look for any excuse not to be with her. Take a closer look at his behavior, if he tries to be with you more often or, conversely, keeps away from you in the company of people, then we can talk about his concern.
Part 2 of 3: Analyze Your Relationship
Step 1. Pay attention to his habits and priorities
If your friend loves you, then walking with you will be one of his favorite pastimes. He will want to hang out with you as much as he can and will sometimes even cancel other plans to be able to hang out with you. If your friend suddenly began to wonder about your plans and pastime, then be sure that you are dealing with a friend in love.
Step 2. Pay attention to what you are talking about when together
Boys in love sometimes very subtly hint at their feelings in conversation. They do this in several ways. Some try to turn the conversation towards romance by asking questions about who their friend loves and who she would like to meet. Others will want to talk about themselves or start making fun of couples in love. Watch the type of your friend's conversations - if they are mainly about romance or dating, even if he does not show the slightest interest, then you can be sure that he is interested in you.
There is an obvious exception to this rule. If your boyfriend friend asks you for advice about other girls, it's usually a sign that he thinks of you other than a girl (in a romantic sense)
Step 3. Pay attention to flirting
Some guys are less shy than others. Especially confident guys may even flirt openly with you. If your friend is used to teasing you playfully with unambiguous hints, or if he likes to piss you off, then you can say that at least he thought more of you than just a friend.
Be aware that a guy's intentions can be somewhat vague when he is flirting. Many guys have a habit of flirting and then turning it all into a joke if their attempt fails. Still others are more sophisticated in flirting or simply having fun in this way. However, constant flirting is a confirmation that they are in love with you
Step 4. Know the "fake date" when this will happen
Guys who want to date their girl friend can sometimes recreate the atmosphere of a date when they are out with her. Watch out for your friendly meetings, are they too "formal"? For example, if he is usually loud and vulgar, and suddenly became calmer and more restrained? Or did he suddenly start developing good manners? Or maybe he wanted to pay for you? If so, your friend wants to create a “fake date” date.
Also, pay attention to how he dresses, or how he holds you. If he keeps you for the "right" and "good" places, as well as, if he puts himself in order before meeting with you, began to more carefully monitor his appearance, then you are clearly not indifferent to him
Step 5. Notice how he treats other girls
This is one of the most important things to look out for when trying to figure out a boyfriend's true feelings, but one that is often overlooked. If you think your friend is currently being particularly affectionate with you, before jumping to conclusions, pay attention to how he interacts with other girls. If he behaves with you the same as with other girls, you can say that he just loves to flirt or an extrovert by nature, but your secret adorer.
Hear when your boyfriend friend talks to you about other girls. As noted above, if he openly asks you for advice on how to attract and win other girls, he treats you like a friend. However, if he is not too happy with other girls and tells you about it, then perhaps in this way he is trying to hint you about something
Part 3 of 3: Ask Others
Step 1. Ask your friends
One of the most accurate ways to find out if your boyfriend likes you is to simply ask someone around him! Most of his friends will be able to tell you about it calmly. If your boyfriend is really in love with you, then surely one of his friends knows about it.
- If possible, ask a friend you both are close to. Not only will this person give you helpful advice and help you plan your next steps, but he (or she) can also keep your secret.
On the other hand, asking one of his friends can take risks. This is where the chances are good that this friend will tell your boyfriend friend that you were interested in him. This can work in your favor if you want your boyfriend friend to know that you are also interested in him, however, if that is not the case, then problems can arise
Step 2. Ask your boyfriend about it
If you are truly confident, the easiest and most direct way to find out if your friend loves you is to just ask him directly. It can be terribly nervous, but despite the temporary stress, you will be able to get an honest and clear answer to your question. When you want to ask your friend if he loves you, make sure you are in a private place, as most guys will be too shy to talk about their feelings in front of other people.
Some guys, unfortunately, are also too shy to talk about their feelings in front of you. If you ask your friend if he loves you, and he answers negatively and, at the same time, continues to treat you "in a special way", it means that he is just shy enough to reveal his feelings to you. In this case, you should not somehow react to it, just continue to live and communicate with him, as before. Perhaps his insecurity and shyness will fade over time, or maybe not
Step 3. If it turns out that you both love each other, ask him directly
If you find that your boyfriend is in love and you love him, then you have no reason not to ask him. This will likely happen anyway, once you both know you love each other. On your first date - since you're already friends, you can skip awkward small talk and have fun together as a new couple!
In our society, there is an unspoken stereotype that guys should be the first to ask girls, and not vice versa. If your friend loves you but hesitates to ask you about it, don't be afraid to completely ignore this outdated tradition! There is no reason why you should wait to be happy while you stick to outdated rules and formalities
- Good luck! By the way, don't push him if he just wants to be friends!
- If he drops a pencil or something and then gives it to you, is he touching your fingers? (To be specific).