A damaged reputation is not easy to restore. That is why it is so important to protect her sometimes. It happens that the loss of reputation is not your fault, but in other cases it is your fault. Getting back a good name is not always easy, but it can still be done with patience, determination, and perseverance.
Part 1 of 3: Get Rid of a Bad Reputation
Step 1. Accept that others may not forget your act
They may stop focusing on it, but still remember. This does not mean that it is impossible to restore your reputation. A bad reputation is always temporary in the long run. After a while, people stop worrying about what you have done in the past.
- Many are constantly confronted with the consequences of their failures and failures over a very long period. Do not despair, and someday your misconduct will be forgotten. Do not forget that you remember your failures much longer than others. Your bad reputation can appear much worse in your mind than it looks in the eyes of others.
- Research shows that, contrary to popular belief, reputation matters much less than other factors when compared to other social judgments.
- Disappear for a while from a person's field of vision, take a short break from the Internet and social networks.
Step 2. Talk about the current situation with people
Be honest when addressing issues related to rebuilding a bad reputation. If you are calm, respectful, and genuinely concerned, then those around you are likely to go to your meeting. By not vocalizing the problem, you are letting the imaginations of those around you run wild, as well as giving rise to free rumors.
- Talk to the person who is actively spreading rumors about your bad reputation first.
- Ask your friends for their opinion on this matter.
- Try not to make excuses.
Step 3. Find the benefit
Perhaps your bad reputation is your hidden superpower. Take some time and think about how your bad reputation can work into your hands, and also try to rethink the perception of the situation. You can act cheekily, thus showing your sexuality. You can become heavy artillery on a team if people around you think you are too aggressive in the sport.
Step 4. Change the opinion of others
Sometimes you just need to control other people's perceptions. They may be seeing the situation in the wrong light. You can help them with this.
- Calculate a positive perspective and provide it. This means that you need to take the time to find ways to change the perception of events that negatively affect your reputation. For example, sometimes people are ashamed of their promiscuous relationships, while others rate it as “having sexuality” or “being sexually active”. Think about how you can help people evaluate your actions from a different perspective.
- Keep in mind that you are not in a position to influence the opinion of every person.
Step 5. Talk about false accusations
Sometimes you just need to say that the rumors are not true. If you've lied about something, it may take some time to correct the situation. Be persistent, but not aggressive, and try to tell your version of what happened as soon as possible. Ask other people for help in clarifying this situation. The longer your bad reputation lasts, the more difficult it is to manage its consequences.
- Deal with misunderstandings.
- Be eloquent when fighting lies.
Part 2 of 3: Build a Good Reputation
Step 1. Do good
Doing good things is the fastest way to improve your reputation. Proceed with caution, because if you recently committed a bad deed, then in the eyes of others it may seem like a desperate move or ordinary overcompensation. This situation cannot be remedied instantly. You have to consistently do good things to build a good reputation for yourself, otherwise it may seem disingenuous. It is very easy to destroy a reputation, but it takes much more time and effort to restore it. Consistency is essential to building a strong reputation.
- Treat your employees to coffee or offer to replace them for a while.
- Offer your friends help before they ask you for it themselves.
- Change your behavior for a while if you suspect something is going wrong.
Step 2. Engage in socially useful activities
There are a huge number of options for how you can spend your free time with the benefit of society. Caring for the elderly or people with disabilities, community activities, and church work. Animal shelters also need help. By being in the service of others for a while, you can improve your reputation.
- If you are still a student at the school, find out what community service can offer you. Many public colleges and schools offer a variety of volunteer options for their students.
- Some companies offer professional development volunteer programs. Talk to your supervisor or department head who can provide a list of options.
Step 3. Use the current situation to learn something new
Be kind to other people with a bad reputation. You will be able to make a positive impression by communicating and understanding the situation of other people with a bad reputation based on your experience. Take the opportunity to spot people in a bad situation around you who may need your attention.
Step 4. Impress others
Go beyond. Do something unusual. Learn to play a musical instrument. Win a scholarship or award. Run a marathon. By doing unusual things, you can improve the opinion of others about yourself. Respect for others will shorten the time it takes to gain a good reputation.
Part 3 of 3: Make a Dramatic Change
Step 1. Change some aspects of your life
External factors such as circle of friends, habits, and place of work can be integral to developing your reputation. Poisonous surroundings and communication with unfriendly people can be the source of your problems. Take some time to consider whether you need to make changes in your social circle and visit the places that you usually visit.
- If you've gotten a bad reputation with your friends, then it might be time to change your social circle. Maybe your friends are supporting rumors that make other people think bad of you.
- At work, a malevolent team may encourage unreasonable expectations from a person. A work environment that encourages an unhealthy work-life balance can present a hardworking person in a completely different light. Assess the work environment, perhaps because of it your reputation suffers. After that, you may be tempted to change jobs.
Step 2. Change yourself
This can be very difficult. Make changes if you look at yourself through the eyes of others and you don't like what you see. It is very difficult to change yourself, because character and certain habits develop throughout life. However, when they notice a change in your behavior, other people will start paying attention to you. It will change the way others think about you, and can cause you to change how they view you as a person.
- Seek help from a professional, such as a therapist or psychiatrist.
- Find a personal growth coach or spiritual mentor who can help you transform yourself from within.
Step 3. Avoid superficial changes
Such changes are different from deep ones. Disingenuous behavior is very difficult to stick to all the time. People sense when you are being insincere. Change is actually very difficult, much more difficult than just pretending.
- Give yourself time to make amends. Very often we make mistakes and then want to fix them immediately. Unfortunately, this does not happen, so it is better to protect your reputation all the time, while being a person of good character.
- Remember that it is very difficult to prove otherwise. When someone accuses you of certain actions, it is very difficult to prove otherwise, unless you have witnesses (who were with you at the time when everything happened). Instead of trying to "prove or disprove" the current situation, simply declare your innocence and forget about the incident. In the future, be very careful what you do. So for people who hear negative reviews about you, the first reaction will be: "This is not like Sergei. Something must have happened or there are good reasons for him to do this."
- Repaired reputation must be protected. Don't let others spread false rumors about you. Find the original source, instead of overpersuading the person who heard this story from someone. Search until you understand exactly who is spreading these rumors. Learn to resist this person; it is most effective to simply ask why he is doing it. "What have I done to earn your hatred? Why are you saying such things about me?" Once you figure out why this is happening, you have a chance to put an end to it.