Are you a little shy about inviting a girl you like to a disco? Just think about a plan of action, decide what you want to say, and then practice will help you feel more confident. In fact, if you want to invite a girl to dance, you have to overcome fear of rejection and try to be yourself - usually girls who are popular are those guys who have nothing (or almost nothing) to lose.
Part 1 of 3: Invite your girlfriend to go to the disco with you
Step 1. Start a conversation
Before you invite a girl to dance, you need to start a conversation about some everyday topic, start with a simple "hello". Stick to this tactic and get to the point smoothly.
Step 2. Invite her to go to the disco in a personal conversation
Sending an invitation via SMS - what could be easier? However, in order for her to appreciate your invitation, it would be better to do it in person. You can ask the girl (even through a message) if she can meet with you, or you can just wait for her after class (or meet before class).
Step 3. Make sure no one bothers you
Find some secluded place in the school (moderately secluded - you never know what they might think) and talk to her there. If you ask her in front of everyone, everyone's attention can put a kind of pressure on her - so it may seem to her that she simply has to answer the cherished "yes". Don't embarrass the girl. In addition, you yourself will be embarrassed if you invite her to a disco, and she refuses you in front of your classmates!
Step 4. Be confident in yourself
Take a deep breath before approaching the girl and starting a conversation. Look her straight in the eyes and keep your head up while you are talking - this will make you look more attractive to the girl while still being yourself.
Step 5. Tell the girl that she looks great
You can start a conversation with the following words: "You look great today!" It is hoped that your compliment will melt her heart, and she will appreciate it, because then the second part of the plan (an invitation to a disco) will be much easier.
Step 6. Take action
Be straightforward and explain that you want to go dancing with her. You can say: "Do you want to go with me to the disco?" - or: "I was hoping to dance with you at the disco … What do you say?"
If she already has a partner for the upcoming disco, you can just say something like this: “That's a shame. I was hoping to dance with you. Well, maybe next time? "
Part 2 of 3: Come up with an original way to invite a girl to dance
Step 1. Give her a little gift
You can bring something cute like flowers or sweets with you. And before you invite the girl to dance, give her a gift. Such a simple token of attention, like a flower or a chocolate bar, does not oblige you to anything, but she will definitely appreciate your surprise.
Step 2. Be romantic
Invite a girl to a disco, creating a romantic atmosphere - she will definitely not forget this sign of attention! For example, here's one of the ideas: you can put a bunch of keys in some container and attach a note to one of them with the inscription: "Find the key to my heart." Oh yeah, don't forget about the address in the note. Hopefully, she will find your home at this address, where you can meet her and invite her to the disco.
Step 3. Write an invitation
For example, you can give a girl balloons with an invitation written on them. On each balloon you can write one word (that is, on one balloon you can write "Do you want", on the second - "go", on the third - "with me", on the fourth - "to the disco"). The same invitation can be written on the packaging of sweets. For example, on each individually packaged candy or on a package of marmalade. You can put sweets in her jacket pocket or, with the permission of your parents, leave them in this girl's room, if you are visiting her.
Step 4. Write your invitation in chalk
If you want, you can ask her parents for permission and write an invitation on the asphalt right in front of her entrance. You can write the entire invitation, or you can just use one word: "Let's dance?" Show originality by writing an invitation with colorful crayons or drawing a cute picture to it.
Step 5. Come up with your own treasure hunt plan
Draw a card that will lead the girl straight to you. For example, you can draw a map of a school and add an arrow or dotted line leading to a parking lot. Wait for the girl in this parking lot and present her with flowers or sweets as “treasures”. And then invite her to the disco.
Part 3 of 3: Consider an invitation plan
Step 1. Invite her a few weeks before the disco
Don't wait for the very last day. After all, by this time she may already have a partner, in addition, so she may think that she is just a "fallback" for you. It is best to invite her in advance - two to three weeks before the disco itself. In addition, during this time she will have the opportunity to think about what to wear.
Step 2. Think about what you will say to her, and then practice the speech
Take a few minutes to think about what exactly and in what sequence you better say so that at the most inopportune moment you do not get confused in words. You can practice in front of the mirror until your invitation sounds calm and natural. It is important to be able to relax and go with the flow.
Step 3. Dress up nicely
Of course, you don't have to dress up and put on a suit or anything out of the ordinary. Leave it to the disco. But taking a shower, styling your hair neatly, and putting on something from your daily wardrobe is important - the main thing is not to look sloppy.
- Apply deodorant and brush your teeth ahead of time.
- Do not overdo it with cologne, otherwise you may scare the girl away.
Step 4. Remember that no means no
If a girl says that you are not interesting to her in this regard, or simply refuses you, leave everything as it is. Believe me, nothing turns a girl off like an annoying guy who will never leave her alone. This is not only rude, but can also lead to the fact that she stops looking in your direction altogether.
- If the girl refused you, do not ask what the reason is. Just say, "Okay, no problem."
- If the girl said: “I’ll think about it,” you should not call her to get a final answer. Wait, the girl has to call you herself. If after your invitation three days have passed, and she has not called, consider that she refused you.
- It's one thing to invite a girl to a disco, but inviting her to be partners at the prom is another matter entirely. You will most likely need additional advice.
- Be yourself
- Treat yourself easier. Not everything and should always be absolutely perfect.
- Be a gentleman, show kindness and respect.