Everyone wants to be at their best in bed. For many, especially for men, the inability to give their partner long-term sexual enjoyment is a cause of anxiety and even stress. In order for a man to avoid premature ejaculation and increase the sexual stamina of any of the partners, you just need to apply the correct tactics of behavior in bed and change your lifestyle. Here are some ways to help you get better in bed and to ensure that both you and your partner have fun.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: In the bedroom
Step 1. Take your time
Sex doesn't have to be fast and furious. Move slowly and let the arousal build up gradually. Instead of being assertive, tease your partner as you step out and change the angle, speed, and depth of penetration. When both of you are ready, you can speed up the tempo together for a deafening ending.
One variation of this technique is called “7 and 9”: keep yourself and your partner from premature orgasm by alternating 7 fast thrusts and 9 slow ones
Step 2. Make a difference
One of the best ways to maintain energy and avoid premature ejaculation is to change positions and speed frequently. When you feel an orgasm approaching, change your position or switch to oral sex. In addition to helping you last longer, it will also improve and diversify your sexual relationship.
Step 3. Take breaks
If you feel like you are getting close to orgasm or are just tired, just stop for a few minutes. You can take advantage of this time to enjoy fondling, use obscene words, and stimulate your partner with your hands or mouth. When you feel ready to start again, enter your partner and continue intercourse.
Step 4. Focus on foreplay
Penetration directly into a partner is not the point of sex. You can give your partner more pleasure through long caresses. Kisses, touches, gentle conversations, and the use of sex toys will help make sex unforgettable. Give your partner pleasure with your hands and tongue so that she is more aroused than you and may even reach orgasm one or more times before you enter her. If you use some or all of your arsenal of sexual gratification techniques correctly, a few minutes of direct sex may be enough for your partner to get satisfaction.
Step 5. Use tighter protective equipment
While many say that there is not much difference between different types of condoms, many men and women are convinced that thicker condoms reduce sensitivity and thus help to delay orgasm. It has been proven that using a lubricant along with a condom can also help delay the onset of orgasm in men.
Step 6. Try a desensitizing cream
Many sex shops sell creams that can be applied to the penis to desensitize during intercourse, allowing men to delay the onset of orgasm. Of course, taking a break to spread the cream is not the most pleasant experience during sex, so this method should be reserved for relationships with a partner with whom you feel comfortable and calm.
Try to find a cream that is absorbed into the skin to avoid exposing your partner
Method 2 of 3: Lifestyle
Step 1. Eat right
Lack of sexual stamina in both men and women can be a symptom of other health or dietary problems. To have a great sex life, you need to eat healthy foods and maintain a healthy weight.
Avoid foods high in saturated fat and cholesterol, as these can clog your arteries and reduce blood flow. Good blood flow is vital to your sex life
Step 2. Exercise
Good sex can be hard, hard work! Like any other physical activity, your strength in bed can be increased if you are in good physical shape. Aim for 30 minutes of aerobic exercise at least 5 days a week, and strength training twice a week. Exercising regularly, especially aerobic exercise, will help you stay healthy, improve blood flow, and energize you for good sex. In addition, exercise will make your figure slim and fit, which will give you confidence.
Step 3. Eliminate stress
Stress interferes with focus, interferes with arousal, and interferes with the happiness of having sex, and can interfere with the blood flow needed for quality sex. To improve sexual endurance and satisfaction, both men and women should reduce stress in their lives, or at least learn to keep it outside the bedroom.
Step 4. Train
Just like with any other activity, you need to train in order to achieve perfection. Have sex with your partner as often as possible using the techniques described above and you will soon be able to naturally better manage orgasm.
- Masturbation is a good way to learn how to manage orgasm. Try to almost bring yourself to orgasm, but stop at the very last moment. Do this several times before you finish. This will help you learn to recognize when you are nearing the end and to control yourself. You don't have to do this every time you masturbate, but from time to time, keep yourself from cumming right away and see how long you can last is not only interesting, but also rewarding.
- At the same time, masturbating too often using this technique can cause your body to be trained to respond only to certain stimulation, which can cause problems when you want to reach orgasm during sex. Remember to change your masturbation technique: masturbate with your other hand, use lubricant, try sex toys, and experiment with different types of visual and mental stimulation.
Method 3 of 3: In Your Head
Step 1. Don't worry
One of the main causes of early ejaculation in men is nervousness and anxiety about the quality of sex. The best thing you can do is relax and focus on having fun with your partner. Remember that the value of sex is not only in having pleasure, but also in intimacy with a partner and good sex is obtained when this intimacy is achieved and it is not only about your sexual stamina and skill, but more about the fluids that should form between you and your partner. If you feel anxious or realize that the problem is “in your head,” take a deep breath and focus on your partner.
Step 2. Think of something else
A classic technique that men and some women use to delay the approach of orgasm is to concentrate their thoughts on some mundane topic during sex. Take away thoughts of pleasure and try to solve some simple math problems until you are ready to have an orgasm.
- Don't think about something that bothers you or annoys you. This can end up losing your erection during sex while your goal is to delay the onset of orgasm. Instead, try to think of something abstract, such as imagining geometric shapes or remembering the words of your favorite song.
- Don't try to increase your sexual strength by reducing contact with your partner. Long sex can be boring for both of you if your thoughts are in the clouds all the time. Use this technique selectively and instead focus on connecting with your partner.