Few of the women on this planet are 100% confident in themselves. Unfortunately, black women are considered a minority at all, which is why they often consider themselves worse than others. This is due to public perceptions of race, social status, height, weight, or attractiveness. Again, in the case of black girls, issues such as manifestations of racism, sexism and self-marginalization become relevant. Black girls deserve to be confident! They deserve to feel their own attractiveness, they should preserve cultural traditions. Self-confidence can be achieved, but for this you need to start from the not most obvious moment - namely, to love your skin as it is.
Part 1 of 2: Love Your Skin
Step 1. Smile to yourself in the mirror as often as possible
Smiling to yourself is a great way to feel more positive and happier. This simple exercise helps to become a more confident woman.
Before leaving the house, smile at your reflection. Do it daily! Stand in front of a mirror and straighten your shoulders, take a deep breath and smile at your reflection. Check all you like. Eyes? New lipstick? Hairstyle?
Step 2. Repeat your personal mantra
Mantras have to be chanted constantly. The bottom line is this: if your head is full of negativity, you will feel bad or even lack confidence. Positive thoughts, in turn, will make you the person you should be.
- You can recite the mantra while preening, or while meditating, or while doing some morning chores (such as making your bed), or while brushing your teeth. Positive thoughts will change your life for the better - fact! During stressful situations, the mantra will also come in handy, as well as in those moments when you doubt yourself.
- Examples of mantras include lyrics from songs that reflect your own beliefs. However, the usual prose will also do: “I am enough …” or “I am not who I am going to become. I will always be…".
Step 3. Write down your positive qualities
Are you suffering from a lack of self-confidence? Sit down and think about all of your positive traits, and then make a list. The list will remind you of those traits of yours that are definitely worth being proud of. This will gradually help you to feel more confident. Sometimes we pay too much attention not to the person who we really are, but to the person who we are not.
- These qualities can be anything physical, academic, or work-related. For example, “I have beautiful, radiant skin,” or “I am a hardworking person,” or “I have strong and healthy legs,” or “I am an intelligent person,” or “I am a wonderful friend,” or “I pray for others”, or "I am a creative person" or "my body is great."
- Think about your best qualities. This will make you feel more confident and able to go out into the world as a wonderful person capable of many things.
- Keep the list handy. It comes in handy when you feel depressed or insecure. Hang it up in a prominent place (on the refrigerator) or put it in your wallet. The main thing is that you can re-read it at any time.
Step 4. Learn more about your culture
According to research, black people often go through multiple stages of the racial identity model. So, white people seem to them much better - but only at first. Further, black people become aware of their own culture, and also gain self-esteem and self-confidence. You will feel better about your skin color when you become aware and fully understand your history and culture.
- Books and records that explain all aspects of your culture are good. Talking to older relatives who share your race about how they feel about this issue is also good.
- Become a worthy representative of your people. Racism and historical oppression have not eradicated such important values as community support, self-improvement, education, family support during difficult times, and a strong commitment to their own religion and spiritual heritage from black communities.
- Find out more about yourself and your nationality. This way you will become more confident and will find reasons to be proud of yourself and your skin color.
Step 5. Learn to defend your opinion
Perhaps you lack confidence, which makes you uncomfortable expressing your own thoughts or points of view. Every woman must learn to develop her own unique way of expressing herself. Learn to be assertive but not aggressive.
You need to be smart and at the same time respectful of others. Self-expression implies thinking over your words before pronouncing, using the word "I", refraining from unfounded accusations of other people and from resentment towards others
Part 2 of 2: Discovering your best qualities
Step 1. Stick to your unique style and personality
Do you think you're in a locked box because of your skin color or race? It should not be! You must be who you are. You should like what you really like. Yes, even when it comes to country music, or poetry, or hunting and fishing, or fashion, or movies and books - and so on!
- Do not be ashamed of your likes and dislikes, do not be afraid to express them. Favorite food, musical preferences, movie or animal - this is not a dogma, it can be changed if you so desire! Find out more about the things that interest you. Discover your own culture and explore others. When you get bored, discover something else. You will feel more confident knowing exactly what you like and continuing to do what you love.
- Remember, it's great to be who you really are. It is within your power to become the person you want to become, or to be who you are now. This is your choice!
Step 2. Educate your body, mind and soul
Another way to become a confident black girl is to take care of your own temple. Do you know you take care of yourself? Therefore, you will have a better attitude towards the part of yourself that is now looking at the world.
- When you know your body looks great, you live with pride and respect. Of course, not everyone can look like a model. Exercise regularly. Remember that each body of each of us is unique. Love yourself both thin and fat. Here are six ways to feel confident through physical activity.
- Pamper yourself from time to time, but remember that your body needs vitamins and nutrients to function properly. Eat healthily, eat lean meats, whole grains, and plenty of fruits and vegetables. Also, drink 8 glasses of water a day to make your skin glow.
- If you don't get enough sleep, your mental health can be at risk. A healthy and sound sleep 7-9 hours a day will help boost self-esteem and overall health.
- Contacting your spiritual side will work wonders for your self-confidence. If you are a spiritual person, then with the proper attention to this side of your life, you can improve your self-esteem and connect with other people. Remember that you were born to serve a special purpose.
Step 3. Do not forget about the rules of hygiene
If you know you look great and you have no doubt that you smell good, then confidence will become your middle name. With enough time and effort put into maintaining a decent appearance, you will be able to raise your head a little higher. You can look and feel confident at all times, no matter what you're wearing, whether it's a tattered T-shirt or an evening dress. All you need to do is take care of your health, hygiene and appearance.
- Wash every day or every other day (depending on your dry skin), use deodorant, brush your teeth twice a day, floss before bed, and wash your face twice a day. Don't go to bed with makeup, it's bad for your skin. Take care of your skin by moisturizing and using sunscreen.
- Buy yourself a quality perfume; let a pleasant scent be your business card. Do not think that one perfume or another is not suitable for you just because the person who advertises it has a different skin color. Use the scent you like or don't use any! You can use natural oils, creams, and talcum powder. The phrase "You smell good" gives fantastic self-confidence.
Step 4. Strive for beauty based on the naturalness of skin and hair
Black girls boast a wide variety of skin tones. Their skin ranges from beige to deep mocha and even black (and even very black). Of course, there is also a wide variety of types and combinations of skin colors. Black girls also have a wide variety of hair types. Determine your type and follow regular treatments to keep your skin and hair healthy and shiny.
- Learn how to care for the hair of dark-skinned women. Natural, curly, braided - you want them to be clean and healthy at all times. African hair can be straight, curly, flowy, braided, curled, and so on. Embrace this fact and your natural beauty! There are many websites on the Internet that will help you learn the rules of hair care.
- Skin color does not depend on skin care. You need to work with a specific type of skin, because it can be oily, dry, sensitive, prone to acne, acne scars, wrinkles or acne. Basic skin care treatments are independent of skin type and include gentle cleansing and moisturizing with sunscreen and optional make-up that meet your skin's needs.
- Visit the makeup section of your pharmacy or mall to find out which cosmetics are best for your skin type. Sellers will help you choose the right ones. If you have special concerns such as dry skin, keloid scars or acne, see your dermatologist for professional advice.
- Remember that if you are not healthy on the inside (physically or mentally), you will not feel healthy around people. Take care of your body, mind and soul!
- Remember that your body grows and your body changes accordingly. You are also growing internally and externally! As long as you take care of your own body, diet, hygiene and habits, you will be able to look great regardless of skin color.
- Remember that you deserve to be pampered. Take care of yourself and other people will understand that you deserve respect and a good relationship.
- Be open and expand your perception to see negative points from a new perspective and change them.
- Be "kind" to yourself first. If people deserve to be a part of your life, they will accept you for who you are.
- People will criticize you. Remember to ask yourself if you will be happier, will you be more perfect as a person, if you change because of the words of other people. If you don’t think it’s going to make you happier, don’t change for the sake of others.