Very often we want not to worry about negative situations occurring in our life. But how do you learn this? Below you will find helpful tips on how to deal with the negativity in our lives.
Steps
Method 1 of 4: When you are judged
Step 1. Create your opinion about yourself
Very often, the reason we care about what others think of us is because we look at ourselves through their eyes … But it’s not at all good to base our opinion of ourselves on what others think of us. The best way to stop worrying about what others think of us is to form your own opinion of yourself. Do what you can be proud of and no matter what others say, you know that you are good at it, that you are a worthy person.
- Volunteering is a great way to feel good about yourself and is invaluable in helping the community.
- Do something new, learn to draw, play a musical instrument, go volleyball. Tired of being that lonely guy no one talks to? Be the rap guy.
- Travel, visit the places you wanted to see. Traveling will give you more confidence and leave fond memories and stories to tell for the rest of your life.
Step 2. Only do what you want
Don't let the opinions of others stop you from doing what you enjoy. Your happiness shouldn't depend on their approval. Just ignore them and you will find that the more time you spend doing what you want, regardless of what is being said, the less worried you will be. You will be so pleased that you will soon notice that you are no longer worried.
Doing what makes you happy is a great way to meet people who think the same way and like what you like. These new people are more likely to approve than condemn what you like
Step 3. Let yourself be denied
A big step towards not worrying about being judged is to let people judge you. Just allow them and having felt it all for yourself, you will understand that this is not the end of the world. Anyway, you wake up every morning and you can do whatever you want. Their opinions don't really affect your life.
There is a little fad in the fight against their condemnation - it will be almost impossible to stop them. People who often judge you harshly usually judge themselves harshly. They will continue to do this because it makes them feel better. They have their own troubles, but do not let them oppress you
Step 4. Understand that this will not last long
After all, these people have their own problems, their own lives. In five years, they may not remember you, much less what they didn’t like about you. Their opinion will not affect you at all even after a few years. If you spend time enjoying life and taking the best out of it, you will be much happier than trying to create a good impression of yourself for people you may never see again.
Method 2 of 4: If someone hurts you
Step 1. Try to understand why they are doing it
It will help you take a huge step in your efforts not to worry, it will help you understand, empathize with them and what they have done. If you understand the reason why people do something, it will become more difficult for you to judge them and use it against them.
Maybe they hurt you because they themselves are hurt, or lonely, or scared. Maybe they do it because they are afraid that you will hurt them. Or maybe they just do not have a good example from their own lives, how to love others, how to treat people well. There are many reasons why people hurt others, intentionally or unintentionally
Step 2. Believe me, it's only worse for him
If someone hurts you or shows that they don't appreciate you and your role in their life, just understand - it will be worse for them. If they feel like being angry, hurt, or alone, it will negatively affect them and for much longer than you. Understand, it is better to spend your time and love on those who appreciate you.
Step 3. Appreciate those who really care about you
Take time to do it. After all, there are many people who love you and are happy to be around. These are your friends, family, colleagues or teachers - they should be given your time, and not those who are simply immersed in their problems.
Step 4. Find new people to take care of
When the person who hurt you leaves your life, find other people to give your care to. So you will have a new goal, you will become happier and forget about all the unpleasant things. When you find those wonderful people who will appreciate you for who you are, you will realize that what some villain has done to you will have absolutely no meaning to you. It's hard to be offended and angry when you are so happy!
Method 3 of 4: When Things Go Wrong
Step 1. Realize that things could be worse
When something bad happens to you, try to remember that it could have been even worse. Of course, this will not lessen the pain of what is happening in your life, it will still be bad. And you can't change that. But if you understand that it could be even worse, it will be much easier for you to appreciate what you have.
Step 2. Appreciate all the good things in your life
Imagine that you could have lost a lot more, but you didn’t; take time to appreciate what makes you happy. Hug your mom, tell your best friend how much he means to you, watch the sunrise … just because you are alive at the moment and that it’s just wonderful.
If it seems to you that you have nothing to value in your life and nothing to be happy about, then you need to go have fun and find something that can make you happy. Volunteer, make new friends, do what you've always wanted to do. Our life is short and should not be spent in despondency and misery
Step 3. Believe me, this is not the end of the world
Sometimes things go wrong. That happens. And it happens quite often, in fact. But if you believe and understand that sometimes something bad happens, then you should know that if it happens, this is not the end of the world. Our problems sometimes seem overwhelming, they are often extremely unpleasant and difficult to deal with, but (as the saying goes) bad things have to happen too. You will have other troubles, but also "pleasant things" will come after them.
Step 4. Don't get hung up
You cannot change the past, you cannot fix what went wrong. All you can do is pull yourself together and move on. Look at the situation from the other side and fix it if you can. If it doesn't work, go to the next question. By setting new goals, having intention and achieving new successes, you will stop obsessing over the failures that you have experienced.
Method 4 of 4: When to Worry
Step 1. It is worth worrying when someone has been hurt
There are times when you need to worry. When someone is suffering, perhaps the most important thing is to help. It is prudent to try not to pay attention to those who offend you, but if you see that someone offends someone else, you should pay attention to it. If we protect each other, then no one will hurt anyone, including yourself.
Step 2. Worry when you might hurt someone
You cannot shoot those you dislike, you cannot threaten them, you cannot help but worry about how your actions offend others. After all, if we want to live happily in this world, we need to love and take care of each other. If you don't care if you are hurting others, consider how your actions will affect your life.
Step 3. Take care when someone really needs you
People often need your support. You may not even imagine that people rely on you. Throughout your life, there will be people who need you for a variety of reasons. You should take care of them and yourself.
These can be friends of yours who need your emotional support, or family members who need your love to light up their lives. Perhaps these are the people in the shelter where you volunteer, or maybe these are your children who simply need you to live
Step 4. It is worth taking care of your life and your well-being
It is very important to take care of yourself. Sometimes it is very difficult, especially if something bad happens to you, to understand why it is worth taking care of yourself. But when you are sad, remember that there are so many people who love you (even if you are not aware of it) and that fate has prepared so many wonderful moments for you (even if you do not believe that anything can ever happen to you something good). Be strong because you are so strong and just wait.
Advice
- The ancient Stoic philosophers were able to perfectly ignore unnecessary things and love only the good moments of their lives. Find out more about them.
- When you have a problem or are very upset, remember that you can always talk to your friends or family. They love you and will help you solve your problems.
Warnings
- If you realize you want to hurt yourself or have suicidal thoughts, seek immediate support. We want you to continue to delight the world with your presence!
- Learning not to worry is not a matter of one day. Don't think it will happen overnight!
- There is nothing inherently right and wrong. It's much more important not to let the negativity upset you. You can pay attention to what people think of you, not change, accept yourself as you are, and still be happy!