By their nature, people strive for calmness, anxiety and stress free. Calmness is a way of being and behaving, with internal and external manifestations. If you are seeking peace, then first try to achieve inner peace. Develop peaceful relationships and create a calm environment around you.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Finding Inner Peace
Step 1. Do things that give you peace of mind
The search for inner peace begins with finding activities that promote peace of mind. Consider activities that are enjoyable for you and create a sense of calm. Try to make time for these activities regularly. Consider the following examples:
- read books;
- enjoy the silence and tranquility;
- be creative;
- listen to soothing sounds - the sound of the surf, the sounds of the wild, the sound of the rain.
Step 2. Meditate
Meditation is a very effective way to calm the mind. It allows you to achieve inner peace and clarity of mind. You should meditate in a calm place without various distractions (for example, in a quiet room with no strangers). Get into a comfortable sitting position in a chair or on the floor. It is important to keep your back straight for proper breathing.
- Close your eyes and focus on your breathing. Determine how you feel when inhaling and exhaling. You don't have to try to control or change your breathing, just focus on the process.
- At this point, there may be a strong desire to follow the course of the thoughts that arise. If consciousness begins to wander, then gently focus on the breath again. Only practice will teach you to cut off all distractions and concentrate on your breathing.
- Engage intention. Meditation allows you to use any intention that resonates in your soul - gratitude, the beauty of nature, the love of loved ones. Choose an aspect, thoughts about which allow you to feel inner warmth and comfort. Beginners will find it very helpful to focus on a specific intention.
- Try guided meditation, guided imagery, compassion meditation, or even attend a meditation class.
Step 3. Control stress in your life
Anxiety and stress interfere with calmness and balance. Neutralize the causes of stress. If financial management or lack of money is causing stress, make an actionable plan immediately. Learn to manage stressful situations so that every day is filled with peace. Choose the stress management methods and action plan that will be most effective and appropriate in your situation. You can use these coping methods.
- Take 10-15 minutes each day to write down all the moments that bother you, as well as how you feel.
- Let your feelings escape - talk, laugh or cry.
- Spend more time with animals (play with pets or visit the zoo).
Step 4. Engage in physical education
Certain types of exercise or sports can provide a sense of peace. Find activities that can help you relieve stress and relax. Regular exercise provides peace of mind, a sense of comfort and a good mood.
- Running has been proven to provide almost the same sense of calmness as meditation.
- Tennis, baseball and golf in large open spaces can release excess energy, stress or aggression.
- Meditation exercises like Pilates and yoga can help you focus and calm your body and mind.
Step 5. Introspect
In a society prone to labeling and judgmentalism, it is difficult not to judge yourself according to the opinions of others. Such thoughts only increase stress and deprive a person of feelings of peace and joy. Try digging into yourself instead. Identify your thoughts and feelings about yourself. Use introspection to find peace of mind through self-satisfaction.
Pay close attention to the inner judgments you use. Try to replace criticism with balanced and kind thoughts
Step 6. Make and accept change
Changes are often difficult for people to accept, which is why they are accompanied by significant stress. We get used to our comfort zone and resist any change. The problem is that change is happening all the time, so resistance only leads to unnecessary stress. You should come to terms with the change and stop resisting:
- Accept the idea that your life is not standing still. Why don't you move towards a better life?
- Get rid of fear. Often our resistance is due to the fear of the unknown. Removing fear makes it much easier to accept change.
- Recognize that resistance creates many more problems and requires more strength than the ability to accept change.
Step 7. Get rid of bad habits
If you have “bad habits”, then they probably contribute to stress and interfere with finding peace of mind. It is very difficult to get rid of a bad habit, but this is the only way to get on the right path and find peace.
- Don't try to break several bad habits at once. Don't set yourself up for failure. Move forward step by step.
- Take notes. Write down your bad habits and indicate when you want to get rid of them. Responsibility to yourself will help you achieve your goal.
- Replace the bad habit with another activity. For example, replace cigarettes with chewing gum.
Method 2 of 3: How to Develop Calm Relationships
Step 1. Accept people as they are
Your desire and attempts to change others are stressful. In such conditions, it is difficult to maintain a peaceful relationship. Instead, start accepting and loving your loved ones along with all their flaws.
- Write down all the qualities that you value in those close to you, and also make a list of things for which you are grateful.
- Everyone has disadvantages, because no one is perfect.
Step 2. Speak the truth
A person cannot find peace if he restrains his thoughts and feelings for others. A peaceful person is at peace with himself. Sincerity is the most important component of inner harmony. Express your sincere feelings and thoughts, but do not forget about kindness.
- Open and honest communication promotes harmony and calmness in relationships. This behavior shows your willingness to openly discuss any problem. You can say, "I want us to be able to calmly discuss any issue."
- Share any disappointments or negative feelings so you can get the problem resolved as soon as possible. Say, “I really appreciate our relationship. I do not want to accumulate dissatisfaction in myself, as this can affect our relationship. "
- Communicate to stay on top of the situation. Show that you are concerned about the well-being of your loved ones. Encourage them to share everything with you. Just ask, "How are you doing?"
Step 3. Speak in a calm and relaxed voice
Not only the words spoken play an important role, but also the tone in which they are spoken. Speech features can tell a lot about your state of mind and emotions. Peaceful relations are built, among other things, on calm conversations.
- Speak slowly and thoughtfully.
- Monitor the volume of your voice. Lower your voice if you start talking too loudly.
- Try to speak in a soft tone, not tense or harsh.
- Pay attention to the words. Consider what shades they give your opinion.
Step 4. Protect yourself from difficult people and pessimists
When you try to accept people for who they are, you are bound to encounter difficult personalities. People who emit one negative only interfere with finding peace. Sometimes it is better to let go of such a person or stop any communication with him. If you are not ready to erase the person from your life, then try to communicate as little as possible.
- It is important to accept people with all their flaws, but it is not at all necessary to agree with their every action. It makes sense to set boundaries for what you can do. For example, you can't stop a person from taking drugs, but you can set a boundary: if he does it while you are in a relationship, then you just leave.
- Stay away from angry and aggressive people. A peaceful person does not allow aggression towards himself and others.
- Distance yourself from those who are overly critical or judgmental about your lifestyle.
- Protect yourself from people who prevent you from living a calm life.
Step 5. Raise your children peacefully
It's not always easy. It can be extremely difficult to deal with stress from time to time. Start small and try to change one aspect of your behavior. If successful, take the next step. Pay attention to your role and create the conditions without which the desired change is impossible.
- Discard accusations and criticisms.
- Don't dwell on your child's mistakes, pay attention to their successes and praise them for any attempts. Instead of saying "Look what a mess! You never collect your toys!" Say: "It seems that today you are full of energy and in a great mood! What is your favorite toy now? Let's leave it and put the rest in the closet for now."
- Become the source of the calmness you want in your child. Be calm, and the child will begin to imitate. Children need to be taught correct behavior, including peacefulness and serenity. It is important to become an example and demonstrate to the child everything that you want to see in him.
Step 6. Start keeping a journal
The diary is an effective assistant on the way to the goal. Writing down will help you focus on the desired intentions in areas of life that require special attention. Also, a diary helps you put your thoughts and plans in order. This is an opportunity to release frustration and stress, so as not to splash out these emotions on others. Use these presets:
- Today it was difficult for me to remain calm because …
- Today, peacefulness has done me a favor, because …
- I will try to be calmer …
Method 3 of 3: How to create a calm environment
Step 1. Put things in order
Get rid of unnecessary things in your home. Peace of mind requires a calm environment and mindset. Get rid of unnecessary junk and tidy up your home. To do this, you should throw away or donate to charity all unnecessary things or toys that are idle. All remaining items should be in place. The order in the house affects the inner peace.
Step 2. Separate work and family life
Peace of mind at home, in relationships and even with oneself are important aspects of peace of mind. They demand a peaceful workplace environment. You should keep your work and family life separate. Try the following:
- Keeping things tidy and tidy in the workplace is just as helpful as keeping your home tidy. Keep your work clean to help you feel calm and peaceful.
- All work problems and stress experienced during the day should be left at work. To do this, you need to start and stop work in a timely manner. Only tight boundaries will prevent you from transferring work stress into your personal life.
- At work, it is important to remain professional and rarely talk about your personal life.
Step 3. Use calm tones and textures in the interior
Creating a cozy and calm home atmosphere is not as difficult as it might seem. Slight changes in the color of the walls and other finishes will have a noticeable soothing effect. The following guidelines will help you make your home a peaceful place.
- Use calm tones when choosing the color of walls, furniture and decorations (shades of blue or beige).
- Place plant pots or flower vases in every room to create a peaceful atmosphere and connect with nature.
- Invest in quality bedding for a restful night's sleep at the end of the day.
Step 4. Fill your home with pleasant scents and sounds
Calmness and serenity are also expressed in sensory experience. New smells or sounds in the house will allow your whole family to relax and feel calm.
- Nature sounds and your favorite classical music can be used as soothing sounds.
- Smells include lavender, rosemary, jasmine, ylang ylang, sweet citrus and bergamot.