It can be difficult to wait for what you want. You never know whether you will have to wait a long time or the desired is already near. Life is unpredictable, and living with this unpredictability is extremely difficult if you are constantly told that something happens just because you want it. Of course, none of this is true. A person does not always understand what exactly he wants; the future cannot be controlled; the time does not always meet our expectations. However, if you know exactly what you want, with patience and perseverance, you can make time work for you.
Method 1 of 3: How to know what you want and how to get what you want
Step 1. Understand what you need
It can be anything: a new job, a romantic or friendship, an interesting trip, or just a new camera. Decide exactly what you want and why.
- Sounds simple, but this is the hardest part. You may find it difficult to define your goals or choose between two options. Be honest with yourself. Think about what you like and how you can become the person you want.
- If you can't make a choice, consider the pros and cons of both options. You can write these lists on paper to make it easier for you.
- Think about the reasons for wanting, consider other options, compare them and consider whether your desire will help you achieve a big goal. For example, if you are looking to buy a camera because you want to become a professional photographer, consider other options for cameras in this price range and consider if what you really want will be the best choice on the way to your goal.
Step 2. Think about your goals
To make it easier for you to achieve what you want, your goals must meet a number of criteria. This will allow you to be practical and avoid unnecessary assumptions. Your goals must meet the following requirements:
Come up with your own goal. Ask yourself what you want, why you want it, who can help you, and how.
To be able to measure your success, you need to set measurable goals. For example, if you want to buy a car, calculate how long it will take to earn the required amount and think about where you will store it.
Be realistic. Whether you want to become a millionaire or marry a princess, chances are that you want the impossible. Go to goals that seem achievable to you.
Consider if what you want will help other people. If people are interested in your success, they will help you.
Think about how long it will take you to achieve a goal and set small tasks for yourself that will lead you to that goal. For example, if you want to be an actor, you can promise yourself to get the first screening in two years, get your first lyric role within three years, and achieve your main goal in five years.
Step 3. Try your best to get what you want
Consider all possible ways to achieve the goal, choose the most suitable path and follow it. Remember, there are always several ways to get what you want. The methods that worked for others may not work for you, and vice versa.
For example, if you want to become a journalist, find out where you can get a related education and the cost of training. Try to earn extra money and volunteer so you have more training material. Meet people who work in the field and ask them for advice
Step 4. Don't cheat
Impatience may lead you to decide that you are not getting what you need because you are not cunning enough. It's important to remember that honesty always pays off. Cheaters get what they want faster, but they can lose it just as quickly.
For example, you decide to conquer a girl by appropriating other people's achievements and skills. If you start dating her, she will very quickly realize that you are a completely different person
Method 2 of 3: Learning to Wait
Step 1. Learn to use your time to your advantage
When the waiting becomes unbearable, time seems to be the enemy. However, this is the best resource you can take advantage of. Manage your time wisely and spend it on activities that will help you achieve your goals.
- We cannot influence the passage of time, but we can arrange for this time. Create a schedule, start coming up with short-term goals and set deadlines, and it will be easier for you to manage your time. Time will become your ally.
- Not all time should be devoted to working on goals. You should also take breaks on time. If you don't give yourself a chance to rest, you will start to get irritated and lose strength.
Step 2. Be patient
Patience is an art that requires skill and training. To be able to wait means to understand that time is unpredictable and that we may not always get what we want right away. You also need to understand that some things can be influenced, while others cannot.
- Impatience is a consequence of powerlessness and inability to change the course of events. To feel like the master of your life, you need to understand that there are things that are influenced primarily by your own decisions.
- For example, to get a job as a journalist, you sent out hundreds of resumes and received no response. However, in order not to waste time in vain, you can start writing articles for university publications or attend special workshops. So the waiting time will not be so painful.
- Make time for sports and relaxation exercises. It will help you relieve stress and teach you patience.
Step 3. Remember that sometimes the lack of progress is also beneficial
It is also necessary to be in a state of inactivity. Recuperation is necessary to get back to business in good shape.
How we get what we want is often unpredictable. Likewise, inaction does not always come as planned. For example, if you suddenly find yourself unemployed, don't treat it as a waste of time and don't feel guilty. You can spend the free time on what you like and enjoy your vacation
Step 4. Be grateful for what you have
You may feel that since you are not getting what you want, your life is useless. Think about what you have already achieved and you will see that your life has changed in unexpected ways more than once. What you now take for granted, you have gained through patience and perseverance.
Keep a gratitude journal. List the things you are grateful for
Step 5. Do something all the time
You should always have something interesting ahead of you. Any activity will brighten up the wait, be it cleaning or meeting with a friend. If you focus on your goal, it will not help you achieve it. You will only lose strength and health.
Remember to distract yourself, but the process should not become obsessive-compulsive. Washing the floor for half a day to forget that you are out of work will have an equally destructive effect on your well-being and health
Step 6. Be optimistic
A positive outlook on the world will contribute to your patience. Optimism pushes forward: energy and desire to act helps to get what you want faster.
Even in this case, you should remember about your past achievements, and then it will be much easier to wait
Method 3 of 3: How to Redefine Your Goals
Step 1. Understand why things are not going according to plan and correct the situation
Failure to get what you want may indicate that the goal is achievable, but the wrong method was chosen. Be honest with yourself and try to objectively think about whether you did everything you could.
If you analyze the whole process and your actions, you will see the mistakes that you made and other ways to solve the problem
Step 2. Consider other ways to reach your goal
You must be ready to rethink your strategy and change direction. Sometimes a person gets hung up on a certain method and does not see that it does not give the desired results. Learn to adapt and look at the situation objectively. This will enable you to reach your goals faster. Remember, it’s the end result that matters, not the way it is achieved.
For example, if the 16 hours you spent every day sending out your resume didn't get you the job, there is surely a way to be more productive during that time. Try to find new connections and use them
Step 3. Think about why you want what you want
If you've been waiting for a long time, you should remember why you even started doing this. Often a person tries so hard that he forgets why he is doing it.
Ask yourself if reaching a goal has become a matter of principle for you. If so, analyze your ambition and think about the reasons for the ambition, not the goal itself
Step 4. Consider other goals
Perhaps not being able to get what you want is a sign that you want the impossible. Suppressing ambition is difficult, but if you want what you can't get, you will constantly feel frustrated and dissatisfied with yourself.
This does not mean that you should give up everything. For example, if you are unable to get the job you want, take a look at related professions. You may like them too
Step 5. Remember that having what you want and being happy are two different things
It may seem that happiness is measurable, like wealth or fame: the more money you have, the richer you are, the more people know you, the more famous you are. However, happiness is an attitude, not quantity or possession. Unhappiness and dissatisfaction create a vicious circle: no matter how much you get, you will always have little.