What could be worse than being rejected by your loved one? Especially if after that he begins to be cruel towards you! Don't let your ex hurt you by making fun of your feelings. Better to turn the situation to your advantage. Make him jealous by showing this person that you are above his games and that you are doing well without him.
Steps
Method 1 of 2: Pretend while you are still in pain
Step 1. Take some time to "pour out your soul."
In the immediate aftermath of rejection, it can be difficult to deal with your emotions. If your loved one teases you during this time, you may not be able to control yourself. Do whatever it takes (on your own) to get over the fact that you were rejected. Cry, kick things, scream. Get it all out of your head.
If your loved one hurt you a lot, don't be afraid to talk to your friends or family about your feelings. Close people whom you completely trust will be able to comfort you and give you useful advice during this period
Step 2. Avoid your lover if you can
If your ex is trying to get on your nerves, stay away from him to take away that pleasure. Don't go where he likes to spend time. Communicate with him only if absolutely necessary. You can even avoid his friends, since it is impossible to tell which side they will actually take.
This advice extends to the realm of technology as well. Don't answer calls or messages from your beloved. Remove it from your social networks (VK, Instagram, etc.)
Step 3. Remain self-confident when forced to interact with him
If you’re studying or working together, you’ll have to interact with your ex in one way or another. Ignore him until he speaks to you first. If you have to communicate with him, try to be polite but indifferent. Use short, precise sentences (eg, “Yes, that's good,” “No, that doesn't matter,” “Good,” “Of course”).
If your ex is taunting you, silence him immediately with silence and a cold look. He's trying to get you to react, so don't let yourself get upset or angry
Step 4. Get yourself busy
Don't let yourself get bogged down in thoughts of what might have happened if your beloved hadn't turned out to be a scoundrel. Better show that you don't care about this person by continuing to live your life! Commit yourself to work or study. Set up a new workout regimen. Find a new hobby and try to master the old one perfectly. Do anything to keep you busy and it will help you take your mind off negativity from your ex.
Remember: dwelling on the past, you are only pulling yourself back. If you let yourself get bogged down in memories, you will end up answering calls, revisiting old photos, and even feeling the urge to write to that person. Stay strong. Don't go back to the person who hurt you
Step 5. Suppress the urge to take revenge
When someone is rude to us, we naturally want to get even. Unfortunately, this is one of the worst things you can do when trying to prove that you don't give a damn about someone. A violent outburst of anger or a cold plan for revenge can make you feel good about yourself in the short term, but it won't help you forget the person in the long run. Therefore, joyfully ignoring the one who hurt you is almost always the best way to get revenge.
Also, don't forget the old adage: “Don't argue with idiots. From a distance, people will not be able to understand who is who. " If you choose to take revenge on your ex, you are only showing people around you petty or childish behavior. What are the best actions to take? Don't even take that risk
Method 2 of 2: Forget your ex-love
Step 1. Focus on your own worth
Once you start to get over the initial pain of rejection, it's time to move on. However, you cannot do this if you don’t believe that you deserve it! Begin to mentally persuade yourself. You can use whatever positive thoughts you want, but the following three work just fine: "I'm beautiful," "I'm smart," "My ex-lover is stupid because he doesn't accept me."
The fact that you broke up with this person does not make you weak and helpless. Admire your independence. To exalt a former love is to belittle oneself
Step 2. Get rid of the feeling of shame
Asking someone on a date and hearing “no” is pretty frustrating, but if the person you are in love with is rude in return, the humiliation can be almost unbearable. However, the shame you may be experiencing will gradually begin to fade. For some people it happens faster, for others it happens more slowly. Don't focus on negative feelings from the past by running them over and over in your head. Better to let them go and strive for new, positive emotions.
Remember, you cannot change the past. So there is no point in worrying. Why worry about things that cannot be changed?
Step 3. Understand that your lover's "games" are infantile
Healthy mature people do not laugh at those who are in love with them after they admit their feelings. They don't tease them after that. If someone has behaved like this to you, there is a positive side to it: now you know that your object of adoration is an immature and insecure person. You should be pleased to know that the person you were worried about is definitely imperfect.
Step 4. Don't let this person come back into your life
Over time, you will start to feel better. Gradually remove the shame and embarrassment of the experience and start focusing more on your own worth. However, if the former love returns to your life, it can lead you astray on the path to healing. If you can't resist, it is best not to talk to this person until you are 100% recovered. If he tries to win back your favor, don't be afraid to ask for some personal space.
If your ex doesn't take the hint, be blunt. It's okay to say, “I don't want to talk to you for a while. Leave me alone"
Step 5. Start looking at this person as if he is not important to you at all
Your ultimate goal is for the person who once caused you so much shame and excitement to cease to mean anything to you. It will take a lot of time and patience, but if you follow the instructions above, you will gradually begin to notice signs of improvement. In the end, you will likely find it funny that this person once meant so much to you.
When you are ready to leave your old love in the past forever, start looking for someone who will give you care and respect, and not humiliate you for your feelings. Remember, happiness is the best revenge
Advice
- If you're trying to show indifference to the person, it's best to just avoid and ignore them. Do not enter into conversations with him and start nodding and smiling lazily. The best way to be indifferent is not to contact the person at all.
- Another good way to show that you don't care about the person is to try to make it clear that you care about many other things and not about them. For example, after the conversation, make sure that he sees how you and your friends go to the party together (without him).