If you're dating a guy you feel sympathy for or even love for, chances are you're wondering if he feels the same way. Of course, he can give you flowers and constantly call, but does he see his future with you? Fortunately, there are several signs that can help you determine if a guy is serious about it. Analyze his words, actions and history of your relationship to assess how much he is attached to you.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Rate his words
Step 1. Notice how often he says “we”
Notice how often he uses the word “we” to refer to the two of you. A man with serious intentions will consider himself part of a couple. He will often refer to you and your relationship, and make plans with you.
Especially watch how often he does this in case you are not part of the conversation. For example, when he is on the phone with his friends
Step 2. Consider the phrase “I love you”
Has your boyfriend already confessed his love to you? If so, chances are he has strong feelings for you. If he says this a lot, he is probably very passionate about the relationship. Moreover, if he was the first to say, “I love you,” this is a clear sign of the seriousness of his intentions.
- Also consider his past. If his family has rarely spoken these words, most likely he will not say them often to you. But this does not mean that he does not love you.
- If he has not yet confessed his love, let him do it when he sees fit, in order to be sure of the sincerity of his words. Don't pressure him if he's not ready.
Step 3. Pay attention to how often it opens in front of you
If a man is serious about his partner, he will often be frank with him. He may share secrets with you, discuss family issues, or talk about stressful situations at work. If you feel like you know a lot about your boyfriend and that he is open to you, chances are you are very dear to him.
Step 4. Evaluate any talk about the future
Is he talking about wanting to marry you? Or that he wants to move in or have children with you? Any references from him aimed at the future may indicate the seriousness of his intentions.
Also, think about whether he mentioned going to some event in the distant future together, such as a wedding or family holiday
Step 5. Consider the discussion on joint finance
If your guy is discussing salary with you or involves you in making big financial decisions, he probably sees your future together. If you have things in common, like a house or a car, chances are good that your situation is very serious.
Step 6. Talk to him after a few months
If you really want to know about his intentions, just ask! If you've been dating for three months or longer, sit down with him and ask him what he thinks about your relationship. Engage in a private conversation when both of you are comfortable with the time.
Say something like, “I felt very good with you these three months and I wonder where this is going. Do you want us to be together always?”
Method 2 of 3: Assess his actions
Step 1. Think about how often you are with his family?
Do you already know his family? Especially with his mom? This is a sign that he is serious about you. If he regularly takes you with him to family gatherings and tells his family about you, this is another sign of his love for you.
Step 2. Determine the level of communication with his friends
If you know his close friends, chances are your boyfriend is deeply involved in your relationship. It's also a good sign if you hear him mention you when talking to friends on the phone.
Don't worry if he doesn't invite you to boyfriend gatherings. This is the time for him and his friends
Step 3. Pay attention if he does something for your sake that he does not like
If a man is serious about his partner, he will often go beyond his usual boundaries. Does he watch your favorite shows with you even though he hates them? Or does he take you to a sushi bar even though he doesn't eat the cuisine himself? These are all signs that a man cares about you.
Step 4. Consider how often he includes you in his plans
Does he often take you with him to various events? You can understand the seriousness of your relationship if the guy no longer asks if you will agree to go with him to any big event. This means that he expects or even is sure that you will be with him. If you spend more time together than apart, you are probably serious.
Step 5. Pay attention to what items you keep with each other at home
If you have a drawer, toothbrush, or space in his closet, chances are that this relationship means a lot to him. Not only should you be firmly established in his home, but also your belongings.
Leaving his belongings at your home is also a sign that you are important to him, but it does not necessarily indicate that he is serious
Step 6. Think how often he is there when you need it
If your car breaks down, will he be the first person you call? If your pet dies, will a boyfriend come to comfort you? If a man takes a relationship seriously, he will often be approachable and helpful. Highlight the things he did for you during the relationship.
Method 3 of 3: Assess your relationship history
Step 1. Remember if you broke up in the past
If the two of you are constantly getting back together and falling apart, chances are this relationship is either not very serious, or just not worth the time. However, if he tries to solve problems instead of giving up, then he is strongly attached to you.
Step 2. Count how long you have been together
Despite the fact that some couples start strong relationships from the first date, this is still the exception, not the rule. If you've been dating for six months or more, you may have a serious guy next to you. If you have been together for less than six months, wait a little before transferring everything to a higher level.
Step 3. Determine if you have an established schedule
If you go to bed on schedule or take turns sleeping at each other's house, the guy is probably serious about it. Including you in your daily life is no laughing matter!
Step 4. Reflect on past relationships
Did he introduce ex-girls to your mother, or were you the only one that had such an honor? Is your relationship the longest in his life? How many partners did he have before? If it turns out that you are the first to whom he confessed his love or introduced to his mom, most likely he is crazy about you!