Think romance isn't your forte? Has your girlfriend been giving up physical intimacy a lot lately? Perhaps you have not yet reached this stage and do not know where to start? Regardless of your situation, there are several ways to improve your chances of success. Set the stage and use good old-fashioned courtship to seduce your girlfriend and improve your intimate life.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: How to Get Attention
Step 1. Make an impression
A girl shouldn't think that today is another ordinary day. For example, try to visually break your habit to increase your chances of success. Try to start with the look. A sexy look will help seduce a girl in the blink of an eye.
- Your outfit should knock you off your feet. Forget sweatpants or jeans and a T-shirt: you need to appear in a different light to her. Wear pants and a shirt that go together (for example, a dark purple top and a black bottom, or a dark blue top and a brown bottom). Get your hair neat. If you have an important date, you can even go to the salon. The girl will think that you have stepped off the pages of a fashion magazine.
- Try to smell good. Girls are extremely sensitive to odors. If a good smell doesn't necessarily guarantee success, then a bad smell will definitely take away your chances. You can use a mild deodorant or eau de toilette.
Step 2. Do atypical actions
Your behavior should go beyond the established framework when communicating with a girl. Combined with an unusual outfit, this will show your girlfriend that tonight is a special evening. You need to get her attention and set the stage.
- If your words and actions are usually fairly predictable, then try not to follow the script. Instead of cool composure, act softer and warmer.
- If you are usually shy around a girl, then try to take matters into your own hands. This will help you make the right impression.
Step 3. Use touch
Touching is an important part of courtship for girls (as well as for men). If you hurriedly go directly to sexual intercourse, the girl can quickly cool down and lose desire. Use touch to set the stage, increase the girl's sexual tension and desire.
Touch your back gently, caress your shoulders, play with your hair, stroke your collarbones. All of these actions can significantly affect a girl's train of thought.
Step 4. Choose the right moment
It is important to understand that sexual desire in women does not work the same way as in men. It weakens or disappears completely in moments of depression, fatigue, sadness, or feeling unwell. In such a situation, it is better not to tempt fate, otherwise there is a risk of upsetting the girl even more.
In addition, timeliness plays an important role if the girl has never had sex in general or specifically with you. If she is not ready for a new stage of the relationship, then there is no need to rush the girl. Talk about it, communicate your desires and find out your girlfriend's attitude towards this issue. The girl should feel your love, even if she is not ready yet.
Part 2 of 3: How to Create the Right Mood
Step 1. Do something nice
It is often uncomfortable for girls to enter into close relationships with those who show insufficient care. One way to show that you are serious about your intentions is to do something really nice. Of course, you can start with the usual colors or candies, but if there is an opportunity to do something significant, then do not miss the chance to show that you care.
- For example, if a girl's car breaks down and it is difficult for her to get to work or school, then call your friend, an auto mechanic and solve the problem. Relieve the girl's stress.
- Of course, your courtesy does not oblige the girl to have sex with you and you do not need to pressure her with such an argument. Show that you are a reliable partner who is genuinely interested in the happiness of your lady.
Step 2. Make romantic gestures
In addition to the fact that it is pleasant, by doing this, you will declare your interest in the girl. It is important to show that she is more than just a friend to you. Girls tend to think that guys don't find them attractive and sexy if they don't make romantic acts and gestures from time to time. Such thoughts can repel the idea of physical intimacy. Make a romantic gesture to soften the girl.
Try reversing roles and doing her a pleasant favor. Surely you received as a gift something like a scarf, knitted with your own hands. Now it's the girl's turn. Origami is a good choice. Paper crafts are not so difficult to perform if you have patience. Explore the paper craft section for ideas and recommendations.
Step 3. Give the right compliments
Another way to set the stage is with compliments. However, they do not always sound natural. Sometimes we say words that seem pleasant and benevolent to us, but they can offend the person. Always think twice about a compliment and try to say it as naturally as possible.
- For example, it’s better not to say, “You look great today,” otherwise the girl will decide that she doesn’t look good on other days. Also, do not use phrases like, "You are so slim in this dress," otherwise the girl will consider herself plump.
- Usually it is better to use individual compliments, but you can always say: "It seems that I can talk to you forever" - or: "When you are next to me, I feel comfortable being myself."
Step 4. Create a mood
Who will be influenced by your stunts if there is a mountain of dirty dishes or linen around? It is also difficult to create a romantic environment when trying to switch right after a hard day at work or school. Help her smoothly switch to a good mood and a romantic mindset so that she becomes more compliant.
The romantic mood often depends on the environment. Get organized, light scented candles and bring flowers. This kind of care doesn't require much effort, but it makes an impression.
Part 3 of 3: How to seduce a girl
Step 1. Try to literally warm the girl up
Research shows that it is more difficult for women to experience physical pleasure in cold conditions. If you want everything to work out well, raise the temperature in the bedroom higher than usual.
Step 2. Have a relaxing massage
Begin the main stage of seduction with a first-class massage. Don't worry if you don't know how to massage: we are always ready to lend a helping hand. Act slowly and do not stop the massage after a couple of minutes. The girl should relax with pleasure and become pliable like soft butter.
- Use lavender oil, baby oil, or oily body lotion during the massage. This will allow your hands to glide easily and sexually over your skin without irritation.
- Pro tip: Preheat a container of oil in a bowl of warm water a couple of minutes before massage.
Step 3. Do not limit yourself to the usual kisses and caresses
You probably know how to kiss. If not, learn the basic techniques in advance. Even if you consider yourself experienced, it doesn't hurt to diversify your arsenal.
- Kiss the girl's belly and chest from different sides. This is an extremely sensitive area.
- Suggest a game: kiss and count every girl's freckle and choose more piquant kissing spots.
- Also, pay attention to the corners of the mouth, which are very sensitive, to drive the girl crazy. She will want to return your kiss, but don't let her and keep kissing other places until she literally starts begging you for a kiss on the lips.
Step 4. Use obscene and sexy phrases
Guys tend to think that girls should never be spoken inappropriately, as this is a sign of disrespect. However, in some situations, some women get turned on by such words. Try to tell her what you want to do with her and how you want her to feel. Speak in a low, hoarse voice and even whisper in your ear. The girl will find you irresistible, because she will be flattered how much you want her right now.
Say something like, “You're so hot. I want to tease you until you start begging me for mercy …”
Step 5. Stimulate the girl's erogenous zones
When everything is ready, start fondling and stimulating the girl to prepare her for the main thing. If you act in a hurry, it will quickly cool down. Stimulate the girl's erogenous zones for a while and only then proceed directly to sexual intercourse.
- Fondle her lower back, breasts, inner thighs, ears, and buttocks to turn her on. Choose a body part and a specific action: kiss, lick, suck, massage and caress. You can even use an ice cube or other items. The options are endless.
- Of course, if the girl is aroused, you can move on to more sensitive areas. If you agree, start rubbing your fingers around the clitoris.
Step 6. Add a touch of novelty
If your relationship has always been sugary boring, then try to dilute the boredom to rekindle sexual interest in the girl. When all actions are painfully familiar and predictable, attraction can fade away and this is normal. Add new sensations and impressions to your intimate life so that the girl herself will fall into your arms.
For example, blindfold her and start slowly undressing, covering her entire body with kisses lower and lower, and then return to your lips again. A wave of amazing sensations will cover the girl and she will be ready for anything
Step 7. Take your time
Women need longer foreplay, so action should not be hasty. The slower and more sensual your movements are, the more the girl will want to rip your clothes off. Kiss your lips and caress your neck with your tongue so that it begs you not to stop.
- Do not immediately try to get your hand into your panties and under your blouse. Start taking off her clothes no earlier than after 20 minutes of preparatory actions.
- If you act slowly, then even the intercourse itself will bring brighter sensations.
Advice
- At inopportune moments, such as an argument, such seduction methods will be ineffective.
- Always try to smell good.