Chatting with a girl you like is always difficult, and when chatting on Facebook, the task can seem even more daunting. Fortunately, the Facebook service is very versatile and allows you to share images, find out the interests of the other person, and communicate openly or in private messages. Leave messages in the Messenger app and on the girl's wall to start a long conversation and get to know each other better.
Part 1 of 2: On the Messenger app
Step 1. Discuss common interests
Surely you want to talk to a certain girl, because you liked her in some way. Discuss common interests to find common ground and build communication.
Write: “In one of the photos you have a T-shirt with the Ramones logo on it. I like them too. What's your favorite album? "
Step 2. Show interest in the girl
People love to talk about themselves and appreciate good listeners. If you are interested in a girl's life, then you can get to know each other better. Ask friendly questions
View the profile to find out the interests of the girl.
Find out where she is, what she listens to, what movies she prefers, her favorite food or sport. Ask questions that affect the interests of the girl: “I've never been to Italy! Which city did you like the most? " or “I'm not a big fan of handball, but I would like to know about your favorite team.”
Communicate in a friendly and polite manner.
Any conversation should start with a greeting. Write: “Hello, we do not know each other, but I saw you have a photograph from the Alps, and I have long wanted to go there! What are your impressions?"
Don't ask too personal questions.
You still don't know much about each other, so don't ask personal questions or touch sensitive topics like religion, sex, politics, and money.
Step 3. Don't drag out the conversation
At the very beginning, it is logical not to have too long conversations in messages. Continuous conversation can be embarrassing for a girl if you don't know much. Try to gradually get to know each other through messages and build friendships naturally.
Step 4. Ask about your homework or work schedule to start a conversation
Your Messenger messages are only available to you and your girlfriend. Other people will not be able to see or comment on your correspondence, so the conversation will be more personal. If you're unsure of where to start, try asking a general rather than a personal question. This does not mean that you cannot discuss personal topics in a conversation, but it is easier to get rid of the tension at the beginning of a conversation.
Write: “Hello, can you tell me what we were asked for tomorrow in Russian? I didn’t write down my homework”or“What time does our shift at the restaurant start tomorrow?”
Step 5. Use phrases that allow you to start a conversation
These are open-ended questions, thanks to which you can get to know a person better. You don't have to ask something important and deep. They help you take the first step. If you've already chatted with each other on your Facebook wall, then you can even continue your previous conversation. Phrases to start a conversation
Start with a light greeting like “Hello, how are you?”. So the girl will be able to decide how detailed her answer will be, which will allow her to feel the threads of the conversation in her hands.
Discuss recent posts.
Open the girl's wall and look at the posts to find a suitable topic, such as a new movie or a vacation. For example, write: “I'm not crazy about this genre of music, but the concert is absolutely incredible!”.
"Long time no see. How are you?"
"What are you thinking of doing this weekend?"
“Recommend a good movie! What have you watched recently?"
Step 6. Discuss joint affairs
Perhaps you already know the girl through common affairs and activities. Try to talk about school or work. Shared experience helps to bond.
Write: “Today was a great workout, wasn't it? You ran so fast! " or “That visitor was very funny. Did she think the drugstore was selling dog food?”
Step 7. Respect the girl's boundaries
Do not intrude if the girl does not want to reply to messages or asks you not to text her. Perhaps now she is not interested in new acquaintances.
Part 2 of 2: On the Wall
Step 1. Write the joke on the wall
If you barely know each other, it is best to communicate openly on the wall first. This is a more casual communication option, but your words or posts may be seen and appreciated or commented on by other users, so consider your actions. Leave a good-natured joke under one of the girl's posts. This will show that you share her interests and that you have a sense of humor.
- No need to sarcast or try to ridicule other comments.
- If the girl appreciates or comments on your joke, then this is a good sign. In this case, you can go to private messages.
Step 2. Post the images on the girl's wall
Photos are a great way to bond with someone you like. If you have general photos from work or school, then you can publish such pictures and tag the girl on them. You can also share a third-party funny picture that will make the girl laugh. How to choose a photo and signature
Come up with a funny caption like “I just can't help but share this masterpiece” or “We just turned out great here …”. If you have a funny expression on your face, write “Now you know what kind of face I usually come to work with!”.
Use a cute signature. You can underestimate your assessment a little: "In my opinion, you are quite nothing in this photo;)", "Quite a good day …" or "Can we repeat it somehow …?".
A successful meme deals with a topic that is understandable only to insiders, or a situation that reminded you of a girl. If the picture is really funny, then you can do without a signature at all! You can also use a short caption like “Just leave it here” or “Who does this remind me of…”.
Step 3. Use jokes that only the insider can understand
If you and your girlfriend have jokes that only you two can understand, post one of them on the wall. The good thing about these jokes is that they stay unbroken longer. Post a joke (even if it comes from a large group) to make her smile and strengthen the bond between you.
Step 4. Be kind
Communicating on your Facebook wall should be done in a good-natured manner. Sarcasm is hard to discern on the internet. If the tone of your words is difficult to grasp, then the girl may find the comment derisive, even if you did not mean anything bad.