A relationship with a sister can be one of the most important in life. However, sometimes problems arise along the way. In this case, it is important to take a step back, realize how important your sister is to you, and work on developing strong relationships in the future.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Think About Your Behavior
Step 1. Analyze your current relationship with your sister
Are you jealous of her? Do you quarrel with her and understand that you are the instigator? Perhaps part of the problem lies with you, and the sister only reacts to your attitude towards her. It is also possible that you were too busy with your friends and personal life and did not pay enough attention to it for a while.
Step 2. Determine what kind of relationship you want to be with your sister
It doesn't matter if she is older or younger, whether you have a big age difference or not, all nursing relationships are different from each other, and their dynamics depends on the nature of each of you. Think about how you want to interact with your sister and what kind of relationship you expect.
- Do you want to be friends and go to parties together?
- Would you rather regard her as a mentor to help you solve problems in life?
- Do you want to help her, guide her and protect her?
Step 3. Think about how you see your sister
Do you still think of her as the person she was five years ago? Do you really know what she is like now? It is easy not to notice how the sister is growing and changing, because she is always there, and in life there is so much more going on. If you don't know what your sister is like now, what interests or friends she has, it's time to get to know her better. Perhaps she feels the same way about you.
- Come up with some funny questions you could ask each other, from the wacky to the usual: favorite movie of the past few years, favorite weird ice cream flavor, the place she most or least would like to visit.
- Subscribe to her on social networks. So you can understand how she positions herself and her interests, who her friends are and how she sees her place in the world.
- Go on a journey together. It could be a simple night hike in the woods, or booking a hotel room in the mountains. When traveling with another person, there is something that really helps you get to know him better and open up yourself.
- Do something together. It could be anything: rollerblading, volunteering in a homeless cafeteria, co-op yoga, whatever you think sounds interesting.
- Check out old joint photos. Think back to a few funny (and not so much) childhood moments.
Step 4. Start your relationship from scratch
We all come to nursing with baggage from the past, and this can weigh on both you and your sister. Forgive your sister for past behavior that you disliked. Do not remember old conflicts and problems that were between you at a much younger age.
Method 2 of 3: Connect with your sister
Step 1. Tell her that you need time to become her best sister
Ask how she would like to change your relationship. She may have great ideas in addition to the ones you've already covered. Be sure to have this conversation alone and give it plenty of time.
Step 2. Do something together
Pick something that you both like and take the time to do it together. It can be difficult to find common interests, and you might be interested in trying something new together and see if you like it or not. For example:
- go to the movies;
- watch a TV show;
- learn to kayak;
- attend cooking classes;
- explore a new neighborhood in your neighborhood;
- try the cuisine in the new restaurant.
Step 3. Keep in touch
Many brothers and sisters believe that short correspondence and posts on VK (rather than numerous long conversations) help to maintain closeness. Once you and your sister have established a strong relationship, maintain it with short, casual contact mixed with occasional long conversations.
Method 3 of 3: Get Closer
Step 1. Work on disagreements
Even if you and your sister quarrel, she will still be your sister. Find the best way to cool down and then return to her. Apologize and ask if you can move on.
- “I'm sorry I'm so upset about your lateness. I had no reason to scream. Can you forgive me? "
- “I really thought you shouldn't date this guy. Sorry. I was wrong. He's pretty cool, and judging and then telling you what to do is definitely not my business. "
- "You was right. I was dressed completely inappropriate for this party, and I had a terrible time. And since we quarreled, I felt even worse. I should have gone with you and your friends. "
Step 2. Be honest with her
You and your sister will be together all your life, and if she asks you for advice, be honest, but at the same time show tact and empathy. Even if that's not what she wants to hear, you are in a better position than anyone else because you have the opportunity to tell her what you really think and make her listen to you. She is in the same position in relation to you. Parental advice sometimes seems like interference, but advice from a brother or sister is often just what you need.
Step 3. Keep her informed of your life
The family is often our best support throughout our lives, and the sister can play the most important role here. It will walk with you through all the significant events in your life, and having someone you can turn to in difficult times and who really knows you is incredibly rewarding. She likely knows you better than anyone else, and it is in your best interest to maintain a strong and close relationship.
Step 4. Give her emotional support
Everyone has difficult times, and sometimes a brother or sister can comfort us better than anyone else, and vice versa. As a rule, it is not about giving advice (if she wants to, she will ask for it), but simply about being around if things are not going as well as we would like. Be a good listener. Paying real attention to her problems will be beneficial for her and will also help strengthen your relationship with her.
Step 5. Make sure she knows how much she means to you
If you don't like telling her how much you love her, do good things for her. Give thoughtful gifts, be happy with her when things are going well, and be there to cheer her up during difficult times.