So you've got your eye on this guy for weeks, months, or even years ago, but still can't seem to speak to him? It is really very sad to feel sympathy for a person and want to get to know him better, but in no way have the courage. Believe me, you are not alone: we have all been through this! Of course, taking a step forward yourself is always scary and exciting, but instead of assessing the risks, think about the reward that awaits you!
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Make him notice you
Step 1. Always try to look your best
To impress him, you don't have to change yourself or your style at all, just be proud of your appearance. Always be well-groomed and take care of yourself.
Dress to highlight your strengths, be it your hair or your height
Step 2. Compliment him
But don't overdo it with compliments and praise! Just mention in conversation that you like his shirt or his infectious smile. He will be flattered that you noticed him and even said something nice.
Step 3. Ask for help
Guys love to feel helpful and needed, so try asking him to help you with something - anything! Whether it's a big request or a very small request, he'll jump at the opportunity to show his skills or just give you his time.
- This can be anything, such as asking you to hand over a book, hold your bag, or point you in the right direction.
- Express your gratitude to make the guy feel proud of what he just did.
- Take the opportunity to have a few words.
Step 4. Watch your body language
If you want the guy to notice you, you should not hide in the corner or at the far end of the room (unless he is also not standing there). Above your nose and don't cross your arms!
Instead of hiding, try to be the center of attention. For example, if you are standing with a group of people, but behind everyone, carefully and unobtrusively try to get to the center. Our eyes automatically gravitate towards the center of the picture, so make sure that the crowd becomes a frame for you
Step 5. Watch your facial expressions and facial expressions
An attractive look is one in which the eyes look wide open. Your gaze can quite naturally become like this if you remember this trick. You can also achieve this look by simply raising your eyebrows slightly.
- Whatever you do, keep your eyes soft and you look cute and friendly. If you can catch his eye, smile.
- Nothing makes you as unapproachable as the habit of staring at your cell phone endlessly. So take it away.
Method 2 of 3: Be bolder
Step 1. Start a conversation
Introduce yourself and have a little chat with the guy. If he's open to conversation, consider taking that as a starting point and making friends with him.
Talk about anything from discussing the weather to discussing the group you spotted on his shirt. Say something like, “Oh, I love this band too! Have you ever been to their concert? "
Step 2. Flirt
Show your boyfriend that you want to flirt with him. Try to act a little playful, flap your eyelashes, straighten your hair, and make fun of him kindly. Do not hurt his feelings in any way, just tease slightly - this will produce the desired effect. Let your boyfriend see and appreciate your personality, your humor, and your rich inner world.
Look him in the eye for a few seconds and then look away. It always works
Step 3. Invite him to meet
Sometimes you just need to gather courage. Take everything into your own hands and invite him yourself somewhere: to the cinema or somewhere else where he will be interested. Be polite, sweet, and friendly. He is unlikely to refuse you.
Approach him confidently, smile and look straight in the eyes. He will not only be flattered, but also surprised by your courage and straightforwardness
Step 4. Give him your phone number
Write your phone number on a piece of paper, sign your name. Walk up to him in class, on the sports field, or wherever you bump into him and give him this note. Say, "I think you should call me sometime." He will be lost in conjecture about what kind of mysterious brave girl she is. Perhaps he will start texting you or calling you immediately after that!
If the guy never called you, then this is absolutely not the person you imagined him to be, and now you can safely move on
Step 5. Write him a message
If this is an Internet affair, try sending him a private message on a social network (VKontakte, Facebook, or whatever). Tell him that you like him and you would like to get to know him better. End the conversation with an open-ended question such as "Would you like to meet?" or "Can you give me your phone number so we can call and chat somehow?" Thus, you yourself will nudge him to an answer.
This option is ideal if you are a little shy
Method 3 of 3: Continue your acquaintance
Step 1. Be honest
One of the keys to having a good, happy relationship is honesty and openness. Do not hide who you really are and what you want from a future with this person. By understanding each other's aspirations and desires ahead of time, you will create a solid foundation for the relationship.
Decide right away with your expectations: do you want friendship, a fleeting romance or a long-term relationship?
Step 2. Don't worry too much
Otherwise, you may start calling or texting your boyfriend too often and ruin the result of your efforts. Try to look at this situation from his point of view. Remember that everyone lives at their own pace, and everyone needs their own space to make a decision without any pressure.
Take his words on faith. For example, if a guy says he's too busy to go out and play, just ask when he has time
Step 3. Enjoy the opportunity to get to know him better
This is one of the best steps to meeting a new person. Ask a lot of questions, even if they are stupid. This will help break the ice and help both of you relax. For example, you might ask about his first job, his favorite food he can't live without, his best friend, or what annoys him.
Be prepared to share information about yourself. It will be so in all fairness
Step 4. Show appreciation
Notice the things he does that make you happy. Smile whenever he does something nice for you. Appreciation for even small, sweet and kind deeds will inspire him to continue in the same spirit. If your boyfriend feels that he is setting a positive tone in your life, he will want to continue the relationship.