You may have begun to suspect that you are in love with a guy you know, but you still don’t understand if you are really in love or just think about him often. You may feel butterflies in your stomach at the sight of this guy, but maybe you just have indigestion. If you really want to understand if you are in love, you should analyze your thoughts, feelings, and your behavior. This article will show you how to do this.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Analyze Your Thoughts
Step 1. Admit to yourself that you have fallen in love
If you feel like you think about your boyfriend too often and are addicted to him, chances are you are. If you are asking yourself if you are really in love and looking for information about this topic on the Internet, chances are you are in love. You may be doubting your feelings because you are attracted to an old friend or because this guy is not like the people you usually like. Perhaps you just don't understand what's going on.
But don't think too much about it. Being superficially in love does not mean that the person should be your soul mate. It just means that you like the guy and want to spend more time with him
Step 2. Rate how often you think about it
This is another easy way to find out if you are in love. Would you constantly think about a person to whom you are indifferent? If you think of a guy every few hours and keep thinking about how he is doing and what he is doing, you probably fell in love. If you do something from the list below, you probably fell in love:
- Dreaming of a boyfriend during class.
- Thinking about your boyfriend before bed. Put another plus sign if you see him in dreams, albeit not romantic ones.
- Constantly think about what the guy is doing and how he is doing.
- Wondering what the guy thinks about certain issues. What will he think of your new dress, your new haircut, a movie you've watched, or a cafe you've been to?
- Think about how often you think of a guy during the day. Once a day? Chances are you are not in love. Once every hour? You probably fell in love.
Step 3. Pay attention to concentration problems
Failure to concentrate is a sure sign that you are in love. If you are completely absorbed in yourself, your grades and friendships, you just have no time to think about the guy. But if you can't read even one page of the textbook because your thoughts keep coming back to the guy, this is a sign that you are deeply addicted to him.
- If thinking about your boyfriend distracts you so much that you can't even keep up a conversation with your friends for more than five minutes, you're definitely in love.
- If you can't read more than a paragraph of study material because you have an image of a guy in front of your eyes or because you think about whether he did his homework, you have fallen in love.
- If your thoughts come back to a guy while watching a movie in the theater or even a half-hour episode of a TV series, you have fallen in love.
- If you're so distracted that you can't concentrate on taking notes in class and all the time writing out the guy's name with a pen, you absolutely fell in love.
Step 4. Think if you have had the same feelings before
Most likely, this is not the first time this has happened to you. Think back to who you liked before and compare how you feel. Different people evoke different emotions in us, but if the feelings are already familiar to you, most likely you have fallen in love again, but with another person.
- Try to remember if you thought about the guy you liked before, the same as now about the new one. What thoughts have you had? If your thoughts are the same as before, it probably means that you are in love again.
- Think about how you usually behave when in love. Did you deny your feelings the last time you were in love? If so, this could be a sign that you are falling in love again.
- If nothing like this has happened to you before, you probably have nothing to compare with. In this case, you are most likely in love, just do not yet know how it feels.
Method 2 of 3: Think About Your Feelings
Step 1. Analyze your feelings
If you feel aroused by your boyfriend's presence, and your positive emotions only intensify after spending some time together, chances are that you have fallen in love. If you are relaxed and just comfortable around your boyfriend, chances are you are not considering him as a partner.
- If you cannot sit still in the presence of a young person, this is most likely a sign that you are carried away by him. If your hands are shaking, or you talk incessantly, or you gesticulate all the time, it means that you are more energetic than usual because you fell in love.
- If you’re so excited that you laugh at everything he says, even if it’s not funny, you’re probably in love. If you like a guy, you will think that all his lines sound hilarious.
- If you're so anxious that you can't fall asleep at night because you are replaying conversations with a guy in your head, you have fallen in love.
- If you feel positively charged or your heart starts to beat faster when a guy greets you, texting you, talking to you, or even just saying your name, you are definitely in love.
Step 2. Pay attention to whether you are nervous
If you fall in love, you will not be completely comfortable in the presence of a person. You will be nervous because you will be worried about what the guy will think of you and because you will be afraid to say something wrong. If you are nervous, it means that you care what he thinks of you, and this - all right - means that you most likely fell in love.
- If your hands, knees, or your voice tremble in front of a guy, it means that he is making you nervous.
- If you’re so nervous that you’re constantly saying nonsense in conversation with your boyfriend, or falling silent because you cannot say anything, you’ve fallen in love.
- If you are so worried that you bump into objects next to a guy, touch tables, or drop things in front of a guy, you have fallen in love.
- If you are so nervous that you feel embarrassed all the time or your cheeks are burning all the time in the presence of a guy, even if there is no reason, then you have fallen in love.
Step 3. Pay attention to how you feel when the guy spends time with other girls
If you're in love, you probably don't want a guy to date someone, talk about someone, or just hang out with other girls. If you are comfortable with the fact that a guy has a girlfriend or that he flirts with other girls, it means that you are not in love.
- If the thought of a boyfriend dating other girls makes you feel uncomfortable, you probably fell in love.
- If the thought of a guy just hanging out with others makes you nauseous, you are definitely in love. But try to get rid of this feeling, otherwise you may have problems with jealousy.
- If he has a girlfriend and you are happy for him and think he has a great relationship, chances are you are not in love.
Method 3 of 3: Pay attention to your behavior
Step 1. Think about what you are saying
What you say to a guy, or even when the guy is not around, will help you understand how you feel about him. Below we explain how to know when you are seriously in love:
- If you tease a guy all the time and try to play a trick on him, it means that you have fallen in love.
- If you speak very quickly or stumble with your boyfriend, it means that you are in love.
- If you're trying really hard not to say anything that might make you look stupid in the eyes of a guy, you've fallen in love. And if it seems to you that everything you say really sounds stupid, you are definitely in love with this guy.
- If you can't talk to your friends for ten minutes and not mention the guy's name, it means that you have fallen in love. If you fall in love with someone, your friends will probably notice it from your behavior before you yourself.
Step 2. Analyze your actions
You can understand a lot about yourself if you observe your behavior in the presence of a guy or even if he is far away. Here are some signs to help you know if you are in love:
- If you are looking for any opportunity to spend time with a guy, you are surely in love. If you have never watched football in your life, and now you started going to all the games, because you know that the guy will be there, you fell in love.
- If you want to be close to him when you communicate, if you bend over to him in the company of friends or foolishly touch him at every opportunity, that means that you have fallen in love.
- If you can't see him flirting with other girls, you have fallen in love.
- If you feel very disappointed when you come to where he should be, and he is not there, it means that you are in love.
Step 3. Consider if you are paying more attention to your appearance
You may have started spending twice as much time in front of the mirror as you did before. Here's how to tell if your behavior is influenced by falling in love:
- If you pay twice as much attention to your appearance when you know you will see a guy, or if you do your best hair and makeup for him, you have fallen in love.
- If you start trying new dyes or new jewelry to see if he notices, you've fallen in love.
- If you don't care how you look when you go where it won't be, you are in love.
Step 4. Pay attention to the changes in your character
Suppose a guy plays sports and looks manly. Perhaps, without even noticing it, you suddenly started playing basketball or football, or bought sneakers to seem more interesting to the guy. And if you want a guy to be interested in you, it means that you are carried away by him and are ready to do anything for him.
Advice
- It's almost impossible to fall in love with someone and not know it. If you think you've fallen in love with someone, most likely you are.
- It's normal to feel confused about your feelings.
- A close friend will surely notice that you have fallen in love before you know it yourself. If she insists that you are carried away by someone, think about her words.
- Sometimes, after meeting a guy, a girl does not understand what she wants: to get to know him better and get to know him as a friend or to meet with him.
- Don't worry too much about your infatuation. If you enjoy spending time with him, does it matter if you get carried away with him or not?
- If you don't know if you like him or not, ask your friends if they think you are embarrassed and nervous around him.
- Don't go where the guy is every day. Otherwise, it will seem to him that you are pressing on him.
- Don't let romance hurt your health or get in the way of your studies. Falling in love can pass. Think about your future. If you are really in love with a guy, you will be together anyway.
- If you've been told that a guy is in love with someone else and not you, and you feel jealous, that is a sign that you are in love.
- Don't confuse falling in love with a close friendship with a boyfriend. Over time, the boundaries of love and friendship are sometimes blurred.
- If you follow a guy on social media (Instagram, VKontakte, and so on), you are sure to fall in love.
- If this hasn’t happened to you before and you don’t understand how you feel, it’s best to tell someone you trust about your feelings for this person.